The Lonely Stoner Mom

Hands down, THE most rewarding aspect of starting www.thestonermom.com, has been the emails from other moms. Moms face the toughest hurdles when it comes to publicly announcing their cannabis use. We’re the ones who risk losing our children, and for most moms, that is the worst fate possible.

lot of you guys are keeping it on the down low, but you can’t deny that you love it. You love that cannabis eases your anxiety. You feel fun and more patient with your kids. So it’s like, you have this weird secret. You have medicine that you works, that you love, for a myriad of reasons, but you can’t talk about it. To anyone. Because you know. Who wants to be known as a stoner mom?

I get these emails from women around the country who find my website or my YouTube videos, and they lose it! They write me right after reading or watching everything I have put out there, and they are all so appreciative to have found someone, anyone, who kinda-sorta resembles what they’ve got going on in their lives.

I want to show you guys, when I can, that moms like you exist. You aren’t the loner on the playground. There’s nothing wrong with you because you want to smoke weed and HAVE KIDS. Moms can and DO use cannabis and it doesn’t have to mean anything. Saying you drink wine does not equal alcoholic, so why should smoking weed equal unfit mother?

Somehow we have to help drag the rest of the country out of the dark ages in this matter. I think the best and least obtrusive way, is to be an example of something positive. Smoke your weed mamas! And LOVE your babies! Show the world how amazing being a stoner mom can be!

Introducing a new series: Meet a Stoner Mom

Today’s post is the first edition of a new series; Meet a Stoner Mom. From time to time I’ll feature another mom like you, somewhere in the world, who uses cannabis in some capacity. I’ll ask the same questions of all of them:

How many kids and how old are they? 

Why do you use cannabis? 

What does a typical stoner day schedule look like for you? ie, what is your stoner schedule?

How open are you about cannabis with your kids? 

Above all this will be a totally NO JUDGEMENT series. I try to say again and again it doesn’t matter what you’re doing, if it works, it works! Moms holding themselves up to other moms as some sort of standard of perfection. NO! We’re all doing what we can at that present moment. Mom’s are all different, and all of our paths are unique. So, let’s celebrate the wide array of mothering styles we have, in addition to the different choices we are making with our cannabis use.

If you want to be featured as a Stoner Mom, see instructions at the end of this post!

Enter the BFF

I’m starting out the series with, of course, my best friend. The next one will actually feature me because I really want to answer those four questions for my audience. So stay tuned for that post.

Abby has been my best friend for years now. We met in the early days of our journey into motherhood, and we’ve been together ever since. I have countless awesome, hilarious, and scandalous stories involving the two of us, but that’s for another (very stoned) day.


 

Meet Abby

 

 

How many kids do you have and how old are they? 

Two – ages 4 and 8

Why do you use cannabis?  

Anxiety, depression, and insomnia – eliminating those makes me a better mom. So I can say I use cannabis to make me a better mom!

What does a typical stoner day schedule look like for you? ie, what is your stoner schedule?

A couple hits while I make breakfast, sip coffee and pack school lunches. I’ll finish that bowl around 10am,  refocus, regroup, and back to mom life.

While kids are in school I tend to enjoy a few bowls- because, I can!:)

A few hits while cooking dinner to help me get through the evening and bedtime routine.
Kids in bed- bong endlessly being hit until I pass out:)

How open are you now about cannabis use with your kids? 

Very. It’s treated in my house like any other adult used substance. Medicines all forms, that forbidden chocolate back in the cupboard that’s for mom only, and alcohol. I explain it’s a medicine that is misunderstood and is still illegal in some places and frowned upon by some people but will hopefully one day be available for all who need it. I explain why I use it (kid friendly words, of course) and it’s background, good and bad. It’s a very open discussion in my house.

 


 

Thanks Abby, for letting me feature you! You’re gorgeous and wonderful and the best friend a stoner could ever have! I’d like to point out that we have a nearly identical stoner schedule hehe.

I talk a lot about not using in front of kids, because that is how I run my house, and you know, it’s my website. But I’ve always been aware of the personal aspect of this decision. Some using cannabis for purely medicinal reasons feel very strongly about not hiding it. Some fighting for legalization feel the same. It’s all about the guidelines that people have set in their lives, respecting them, and not worrying so damn much about it.

I love the freedom and education Abby exhibits in her household. All thought-out and age-appropriate. In my opinion, a casual, educated and responsible take on childhood cannabis education is really the best way to go if you are trying to limit teen use later. The easiest way to ensure out of control behavior is to preach abstinence without education. No, I’m not the mom who is like, if you’re going to do it, do it in my house. I am extremely against recreational teen use of cannabis. I think it can do harm to a developing body with a brain that won’t be fully formed until the early twenties. But keeping young people in the dark about the world and what is in it is a mistake that leaves them totally vulnerable when they are out in the world without you. You know, as humans do.

Anyway, as I said above, I’ll be featuring myself as the next Meet a Stoner Mom. That will give me some time to screen submissions from you guys!


 

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