I’ve said it many times, the best part of running www.thestonermom.com is the emails from you guys. Young people struggling with parents, retirees attempting to smoke their first bowl, middle-aged couples bursting with enthusiasm. I have doctors emailing me, accomplished adults, seasoned combat veterans. Young women dreaming about the day they become a mother. Fathers and grandfathers and grandmas and moms. Oh the moms. 😍
Mothers face the toughest hurdles when it comes to publicly announcing their cannabis use. We’re the ones who risk losing our children, and for most moms, that is enough to keep them silent for decades.
Imagine you had medicine that was literally saving your life, and you couldn’t tell anyone about it? This is the reality for a huge amount of you, and here at The Stoner Mom we are working to empower one another to understand that you are not alone. (*cue Michael Jackson song)
Cannabis is so well-suited for parents. Parents love that cannabis eases their anxiety. They feel fun and more patient with their kids. They love that their sleep and their sex has been the best it has ever been. They love that the pain is finally treated, the inflammation, the nights waking up vomiting. They love the sense of togetherness that cannabis gives them, the deep wonder for life. The mindfulness and sense of presence and the ability to experience their family, that much more.
Parents love that they finally have natural medicine that works, but for a myriad of reasons, they can’t talk about it. To anyone. Because, you know. Who wants to be known as a stoner mom?
I do. And you can too. You aren’t the loner on the playground. There’s nothing wrong with you because you want to smoke weed and HAVE KIDS. Moms can and DO use cannabis and it doesn’t mean anything. Saying you drink wine does not equal alcoholic, so why should smoking weed equal unfit mother?
In my Meet a Stoner Mom series I’m introducing you to the many faces of maternal cannabis use. Big ups to these brave women for submitting their answers! If you want a chance to be featured as a Meet a Stoner Mom, fill out the form at the end of this post.
I fell in love with May’s Stoner Mom. Her answers were so moving, I just had to share them. Meet Jamie, a beautiful soul who has been fortunate enough to go without opiates and sleeping pills for the first time in 20 years, all because of cannabis.
Why do you use cannabis?
I use cannabis for the pain involved with Interstitial Cystitis. I was diagnosed 25 years ago and just started using medical marijuana weeks ago. It helps to relieve my neuro pain as well as loosen all the tension in my spine, pelvis and ligaments to make physical therapies way more effective. It also helps relax my muscles at night and helps me to sleep deeper than I have in 20 years.
I gave up opiates 3 months ago, then sleeping pills 2 months ago. Then I became a brand new smoker – the first time I used MJ, I laughed, then cried because I was so happy. I was finally, truly out of pain. Then I cried deeply as I grieved all the time I’ve lost not knowing that pot could help my condition. And many others I believe. I’ll be an advocate from now on.
How open are you about cannabis with your kids?
Very. I used to use pharmaceuticals and my kids were very aware, despite my discretion. They would occasionally figure out that I had to see doctors on a regular basis, and a pain doc monthly. That one of our regular errands was to stop at the pharmacy. They know that my meds were in my bedroom that was often locked and that meds were only to be taken by the person they were prescribed for. Cannabis is VERY similar. Locked containers in a Locked cabinet in a Locked room. It’s mine because of my illness, it helps me, its only for adults – over 18, and it’s not to be tampered with. I’m hopeful that if I have open dialogue with them, that they will with me.
Thank you Jamie, for sharing your truly touching perspective. I firmly believe you are correct about open dialogue with the children. It does work, and it does matter. Best of luck and thank you for sharing your story with us.
Want to be featured as the next Stoner Parent?
Fill out this contact form! We’ll be in touch if you are selected! When answering feel free to be as vague or as detailed as you feel comfortable. You do not have to use a real name. Photos are not required but go a long way in normalizing the cannabis movement.